I’ve heard that suicide is one of the leading causes of death when someone has Lyme Disease. Please, don’t give up! I know what it is like to hurt so much you pray for God to take you… to feel like Dana on “Under Our Skin” who says, “It’s not enough to just be alive.” However, I also come from a family that has been touched by suicide, and when a person ends their life, they have no idea how it will affect their family, often generations down the line. The ones who are left behind are never the same, often blaming themselves. When you are suffering physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially from Lyme Disease and co-infections, it may seem like the pain will never end, that there is no end in sight… Please, don’t decide to end your life, please! There are other options!
Talk to a close friend or family member who understands what you are going through- or better yet, a fellow Lymie who understands your pain. I know how frustrating it is to be misdiagnosed, time-and-time-again, which can only lead to progression of our disease and only getting worse… I went 20 years without knowing what was at the root of my pain and suffering. I know how hopeless it can seem when friends, family, even doctors do not understand, often insisting that nothing is wrong with us because they can’t see anything obvious, saying or thinking, “You don’t look sick.” I know how much it hurts to be dismissed and not supported by those we care about who should listen better and try to put themselves in our shoes. It can almost make you lose hope and heart in humanity.
There are people who care, and people who will listen! Leave a comment with your name and phone number here on knowlyme.com, and I will call you back. Call a suicide hotline (1-800-273-TALK) or (1-800-273-8255), and ask for help! We care about you, and I know there are people who love you dearly and would never get over it if you ended it.
If you are a friend or family member of someone who has Lyme Disease, please reach out and let them know that you are thinking of them and are there for them- that you care. Lyme Disease often causes depression, and depression is one of the common misdiagnoses. You can make a HUGE difference in someone’s life just by caring, listening, and taking them seriously. Please, do not wait until it is too late… Open your heart and give a loved one a hand, some encouragement, tell them that they matter and how much you care.
Don’t follow my starlight
It goes well beyond and you must stay
and drift away until you too are gone
– Bryan Bower
My heart and prayers go out to Bryan Bower, his family and friends, we know you were there for him. God Bless you. Bryan, you will be dearly missed. Rest In Peace.
Something needs to change in the medical community so that Lyme Disease victims like Bryan don’t lose hope. Each one of us can learn what we can and educate others about the truth about Lyme Disease (it doesn’t just “resolve itself” like the CDC pretends). Watch the documentary “Under Our Skin” and share it with others. Never, ever EVER give up!